About being enough

I don't know whether it is actually about perfectionism. I think my problem is a constant dark hum that's under the surface – a hum about whether I'm 'enough'. That is, not feeling valuable to others. It would be nice not to worry about these things at all. Apparently there are people out there who [...]

Watching my friend lose self-confidence

Watching my friend lose self-confidence recently became a light bulb moment for me. Debbie (not her real name) was exhausted. I would have to say that she was on the verge of burnout, if not already there. She has been pushing herself hard at work (ironically, in healthcare) – and helping others for free.  I [...]

Burnout recovery tip 12: Drugs, anxiety and my rap song

Drugs. It's a wonderful word, isn't it? Say the word 'drugs' to someone and you are destined to raise some kind of emotion in them (fear, hatred, glee, etc). But what that emotion is will depend on that person's relationship to drugs.    What do you think about drugs? You might reply, 'It depends..are we [...]

Elizabeth Gilbert, Elaine Aron and the depression thing

In the best-selling book Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert called them 'goons'. She was referring to 'Depression' and 'Lonliness'.       The goons arrived to meet her as the sun was setting over the Villa Borghese in Rome. Despite the beautiful situ, Depression took her identity while Lonliness interrogated her about her motives for happiness. [...]

Turning dark daze to baby blue

Yesterday I was feeling pretty lousy.  You know those days that can officially be called 'The dark end of the street'?   But I found myself doing something a little different to turn that feeling right around…   I picked up the phone and called a friend.  Doesn't sound unusual, I know.  But wait, there's [...]